When I started THE ZRW I really gave some thought about what I wanted my blog to be about. If you saw my first blog post you would appreciate there are many facets to me. I am an eat, shop, travel, sleep, repeat kind of girl. But beneath all of it I would like to think I am quite reflective. Over the years I have gained wisdom through the hurdles I have jumped. I have learnt that when life gives you lemons you need to make champagne. I repeat when life gives you lemons make champagne. Please don’t make lemonade when life gives you lemons. The best type of bubbles are of the champagne variety. People often struggle to see how they can turn a bad situation into a good one and it is for me to make the statement but the question is…… How do you keep going when you are down, you hate your job, or are going through a break up?
My Zoe’s School of Life principles to turn lemonade into champagne are simply;
#1 CRY AND PUT SOME MAKE UP ON
When my boyfriend of four years and I broke up people thought I didn’t cry. I did but I just made sure my tears ran fast and I put some make-up on. Crying allows you to release some of the emotions and is essential. Makeup is essential as nobody wants to go through a hard time looking like a frump, you need to look A star fabulous, even when you don’t feel it as how you look affects how you approach the world. Exercise, eat well and put your make up on.
#2 YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF YOUR REACTION
When something bad happens there is nothing you can do if it’s being done to you. The only thing that you can control is how you react and what you do next. So choose how you react for the greater good of yourself. In my past I spent to much time reacting to people’s crazy ideas and notions in a way that was detrimental to myself when I should have simply reacted in way for the greater good of myself. Create a plan, and be positive about YOUR next steps.
#3 THE PAST, THE PRESENT AND THE FUTURE
Once a lemon hits you in the face, it is the present moment but one day it will become a past moment. In your present moment you have to tackle the hurdle to the best of your ability, you will get over it. The only hurdle you cannot overcome is death, everything else is possible to jump. Once you have put the lemon to your past, learn from it and do not dwell on it and look towards your bright future filled with champagne. No matter how much I have hated some of my hurdles I always know it will be fine because of the simple knowledge that it will be in the past one day.
Growing up my Mummy RW ( a very wise woman) always used to say to me even a 100 years is not forever. Translated what this means is whatever bad moment you are having are only temporary. Even the most bitter lemons that you eat are only temporary. Having just been in a job with management that can only be described as a complex narcissists I can guarantee that every bad situation is only temporary. Yes it was 2 and 1/2 years (long years) of my life but I escaped and finally resigned. Even if I was in the role for 5 years I would have maintained the belief that the situation was only temporary. Sucking lemons for 5 years wouldn’t be fun but it would one day be the past.
Walking is my go to free therapy in good and bad times. I have lost count of the number of times I have thought of an amazing solution to a problem or had a genius idea simply by walking.
But isn’t exercise walking you may ask. To be honest it is but they serve too different purposes in turning lemonade into champagne. Exercise is great as a to de-stress and release some feel good endorphins.
I have learnt that life isn’t always a bottle of champagne and sometimes you suck some bitter lemons, however those lemons are mere hurdles and not concrete walls . If even they were concrete walls you could break them down, all you need is a plan of action on how to turn those lemons into champagne.
How do you turn your Lemons into Champagne? Zoe x